Posts tagged Kids
Links To Share – September 24, 2009
Sep 24th
I have collected a large number of tidbits for this grouping of links that I would like to share. But then again, why use them all for one post? 
- Fathering in America: What’s a Dad Supposed to Do? – [Psych Central]
- 10 Antidotes to Self-Sexualization of Girls – [Moms Speak Up]
- 5 Tips On Fatherhood Your Dad Never Told You – [Dad-O-Matic]
- Eating dinner together, Healthy Habit #2 - [Super Healthy Kids]
- Beat the Bedtime Blues with a Sure-Fire Sleep Solution for Your Preschooler – [Root And Sprout]
- Men’s Fitness – Quick Exercises for Busy Dads – [About.com]
- Is the Father of Your Children a Geek? – [Strollerderby]
- Dads and Daughters – Make a Decision Already – [Discovering Dad]
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New(ish) Summer Fun!
Sep 14th
Well, we are now almost at the end of summer. The heat is starting to ease and the kids are coming out of their “summer mode”. For our family this summer has been definitely different than the previous four because the kids are now older (4 and 2) and we are able to do more things, at least more easily. Here are a few of the things that we are loving now that the monkeys are just a bit more mature.
Camping!! We were able to go camping the first summer after my son was born two years ago. He was only a few months old and his sister was two so it wasn’t too bad. Since the little guy was so tiny all he really did was sleep and hang out in the chest carrier (covered in netting of course). But that was the last and only time we have gone camping in the last two years. So far this year we’ve taken the kids twice and are planning at least 2-3 more. It is so great now that they can both walk and actually enjoy camping.
Swimming. Last year wasn’t too bad when it came to taking the kids to the pool but now they are even better. We used to have to hold my son and keep him upright in the 1ft. baby pool. Now he can walk on his own. Of course we never take our eyes off of him but at least he doesn’t need to be held. Also, my daughter can now be a bit more independent. She’s not quite ready for the big pool on her own but she is getting close.
Water parks. The idea of my little kids being old enough to take to a water park is still very hard to believe. Last year we couldn’t even take our hands off of our littlest one and now we can all enjoy a water park with slides and tons of other amazing water features. On our first trip this summer, our oldest, was a little timid at first. We had to walk around with her holding her hand as she stared at all the other kids playing and having a great time. Within 20 minutes she was off! The best we could do was stay at a fixed point where we could see her and she knew where we were and just let her go. She was running around spraying other kids, splashing in the wading pools and sliding down the small slides completely on her own. For us, that took a lot of self restraint not to be three steps behind her the entire time. We all grew up a lot that day.
We love watching our little ones grow up and become little people. They are solidifying their places in the world already. Even though we can’t wait to see what’s around the next corner, we are both doing our absolute best to enjoy and cherish what is on the present corner. Life is grand…
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You Must Obey Me…Or Someone
Jul 9th
Happy Fatherhood Friday! Be sure to head on over to Dad-Blogs.com and check out some terrific articles by a lot of great dads (and some moms too).
So I ran into a friend today who has a very different parenting style than my wife and I do. Her son was being a typical little boy who wanted to test boundaries and needed a lot of refocusing. I couldn’t help but notice the fact that she was constantly reminding him to ‘obey’ her. That word felt very uncomfortable to my ears as she wouldn’t release him from time-outs until he promised to ‘obey’ or asked ahead of time if he was going to ‘obey’ the librarian. Aside from ineffective parenting, something was not sitting well with me listening to her. Then I realized that the word ‘obey’ went against many of my personal values and those we have for our family. That got me reflecting on our core family values (not to steal an overly-misused Republican rhetoric phrase) and this is what I came up with.
- Independence. I hope my children grow up to be independent in their thinking, choices and actions. ‘Obey’ implies conformity, which is probably the single biggest violator of our family values. I cannot encourage my children to do what I tell them because I told them to do so. I want them to understand that the universe has consequences and we base our decisions weighing those consequences with the rewards. I do not ‘obey’ the speed limit simply because it is there, I choose not to speed to keep those around me safe and my wallet a little fuller.
- Humor. We laugh a lot in my family and I like to think we are funny people. If we aren’t then please don’t tell us, let us just go on thinking we are. Let’s face it there is nothing funny about the word ‘obey’. In fact in conjures up images of fire and brimstone….again more forced conformity. Or worse yet, I picture Hester Prynne and her Scarlet A. Still not laughing.
- Kindness. I want my kids to grow up to be kind. That is what it is all about (not the Hokey Pokey). Telling your kids they must obey you doesn’t seem very kind. Unless of course they are threatening to run into a busy street. It is not that I think that discipline in general, is unkind, actually it is quite the opposite. Teaching kids right from wrong is the most important thing we do as parents and I think it is semi-abusive to take the ‘oh isn’t it cute how he misbehaves’ approach. That strays into other posts, I digress.
So what do you think of this concept of insisting our children obey us like Moses and the Commandments. What core values does your family have and how do they leak into your everyday life, even your verbiage? Have you noticed anything from friends that really stand out as difficult for you to accept?
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Links To Share – July 8, 2009
Jul 8th
Hope you all had a terrific holiday weekend, I know I did. Here is my latest installment of links to sites or articles that I thought I would share. Since it has been a while since I last put some of these little gems up I am increasing the number of them. This should keep you busy for a while.
- Daily Links: Making Money Edition – [Get Rich Slowly]
- Man Up and be a real dad – [CNN Commentary]
- Helping Your Children Make Good Decisions – [About.com]
- Family Dog Saves Toddler’s Life – [Strollerderby]
- Time-Lapse Photography Captures Galactic Core of the Milky Way – [Gizmodo]
- What to Do If You See Another Parent Verbally or Physically Mistreating a Child – [Root & Sprout]
- Guitar Hero, You Are My Only Hope – [Super Mega Dad]
- Books About Dad – [No Time For Flashcards]
- Family Night – A Simple and Powerful Idea for Family Unity – [About.com]
- The Lazy Way to Investment Success – [Get Rich Slowly]
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Links To Share – June 22, 2009
Jun 22nd
Here is another gathering of some links I thought you would enjoy. I thought that having a few that are relevant to this time of year would be helpful.
- Investing 101: An Introduction To Asset Allocation – [Get Rich Slowly]
- Camping Activities With The Family – [About.com]
- Children’s Books You Will Never Read – [Strollerderby]
- Children’s Multivitamins – [Super Healthy Kids]
- Water Effectively by Calibrating Your Sprinklers – [Lifehacker]
- Family Activities Are Good For Mom and Dad, Too! – [Root & Sprout]
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Helping Kids Lose Like Pros
May 14th
I was recently contacted by Tamar Chansky, Ph.D. asking if I’d like to read and comment an article she had written that discusses the pressures and emotions that some kids have to deal with when it comes to youth sports. I say have to deal with because many times they are not given many options when it comes to participating in sports as kids. She offers eight fantastic strategies to helping kids become the resilient athletes that they need to become.
Preparing for the arrival.
May 5th
With about two months to go until our baby is due we have recently started to panic that we do not have everything that we will need for the baby. Don’t get me wrong we do have the necessities such as a crib, changing table, car seat and some clothes. Many of which were hand me downs. We also have plans to get some more “gear” before the arrival of our first child and hopefully with the baby shower we may get some more necessities. My big question to our commenters is this: what are some things that you overlooked initially before your first born that you have now found to be a lifesaver?
Thanks
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My New Partner In Crime AND Kids Using PC’s
May 1st
Happy Fatherhood Friday!I have a very exciting announcement to make. I have asked that my brother partner up with me to work on this site. He is a few years younger than me and is expecting his first child this June. I have always wanted the site to be a collaborative effort among dads of different backgrounds so that we can give advice and learn from each other. My experience as a parent centers mostly centers around 2 kids, a girl and a boy both of which are ages 2 and above. Now, c, can bring his new dad experiences to the table. (With that “new dad smell” too!) Hopefully this will expand our coverage and topics and can better serve you. Without further ado, please welcome and enjoy c’s first (of many I’m sure) post here at Smartfathers, “Thoughts On Kids Using PC’s”.
