It wasn’t until my two older kids were in elementary school that we even thought about enrolling them in any structured activities. They both chose swimming and gymnastics. My daughter enjoyed both but decided, after a few years, to give up gymnastics when the coach began to pressure her to join the competitive team. She only wanted to have fun. My son gave it up after only a few sessions, because it was difficult for him to have to wait his turn on the sidelines (please don’t think he is spoiled – he is ADHD/SPD, so waiting patiently in a loud space IS truly tortuous for him). They stuck with swimming for quite a number of years and then quit when they both had their fill of it. But now they are asking to continue, and that’s fine. My youngest will be 4 in July. She has never been in any structured activity, because what more does a young child need than to run and play in her own backyard? She’s now beginning to express an interest in swimming, and I feel comfortable exploring that option since she was the one who initiated it.

Please don’t think I am implying parents who enroll their children at such young ages are wrong or silly for doing so; I don’t. I think there is a lot of value in the activity when you are able to participate with your child. And I understand your guilt – truly! I didn’t even bother buying my third child a baby book! Subsequent child miss out, whether it’s for lack of time or resources.

The point is, don’t sweat it. If you are worried about your son’s gross motor skills, take him outside and the two of you kick and toss a ball around, roll in the grass, run and jump together . . .